Friday, July 18, 2014

Weekly Reading


Everyone needs a vacation and I have been anticipating mine for awhile now.  Therefore, I am shooting out my quick top ten articles I enjoyed this week as I am preparing to go to Maui.

As you read my top ten articles this week, think of me having a drink on the beach, relaxing, recuperating, as I prepare to go into one of the most intense seasons of my life. Back to School!
                         
          Top Ten 

  1. Are you a Master or Disaster at love?
  2. Questions Leaders should never ask
  3. The dangerous act of reading
  4. Your bosses work vs personal life matters
  5. Why your company isn't hiring?
  6. Is your environment holding you back?
  7. Are you ready to discuss Israel and Gaza?
  8. 3 Questions execs should ask the front line?
  9. The cost of continuously checking emails
  10. 10 Models for leading change

Thursday, July 3, 2014

Short Week = Short Weekly Reading

It's my experience on short holiday weeks people find numerous reasons not to read their blog reel.  As a result, when people return to their normal routine they are faced with an insurmountable amount of posts they are unable to catch up on.  Their solution is to clear their blog reel and start a fresh.  Hence this week's blog will be a short one with articles only.  Enjoy your 4th.


  1. Why it pays to tell the truth 
  2. From Beer to Caffeine: The Natural History of Innovation
  3. Facebook's emotion experiment, we need to be algorithm savy
  4. Emotions in negotiations and the case against staying calm
  5. Counterintuitive habits for leadership
  6. Do you want your CEO playing golf?
  7. How to spot a liar
  8. 5 Questions leaders shouldn't ask
  9. Is it better to spend or invest your time?
  10. How to hire a CEO you won't want to fire

Friday, June 27, 2014

Weekly Reading

Should someone's first time leading a board meeting be riddled with conflict? I don't know, but I get to check two items off my bucket list today as a result. Are you thinking I am sadistic? Well, I might be, but I love engaging in debates where people are passionate about the topic being discussed. In my meeting today there were differing views displayed with passion, but something was lacking, a clear direction. 

How does an ESOP led company build direction for the company when its key leaders want to head in different directions?

The division of my leadership team could be divided by age, and the package of goods sold by the previous CEO.  My key dilemma is the previous CEO sold two different packages with two radically different narratives.  The rubber really hits the road when neither story is being realized as a direct result of the opposing narrative being lived out.  

As I am attempting to show my leadership team a third way, which isn't black-and-white, but allows room for negotiated agreed upon direction, but is it possible when one person wants to grow and the other wants to preserve?

Top Ten Articles that Caught My Eye

Monday, June 23, 2014

Weekly Reading


The past couple weeks have left me frazzled.  I hadn't realized how disheveled I had become until the power to my building went out, and two long emails, along with this blog post, disappeared into oblivion.  If you are reading this blog please stop, confirm your auto saving is working on your computer, then go back to reading.  Your future self might thank me in the not so distant future.  As my entire schedule was deconstructed, and there was a subconscious sigh of relief.  I realized immediately there were things I needed to say no to, like the breakfast my co-workers headed off to.  The 80/20 rule had turned into a 95/5 rule, and my life needed more balance.  The symbolic event of power outage represented a much needed disconnection from work and technology.  Therefore, I planned a date night, changed plans to attend a BBQ on Saturday, and scheduled golf with family on Sunday afternoon.  In between all that I worked through some of my Feedly, and was able to expand my weekly readying for you.
  1. Let's be honest about lying
  2. Strategy isn't what you say...its what you do
  3. CEO pay is rising but so is CEO impact....Or is it?
  4. Your company isn't family (but mine is...)
  5. Body language mistakes can cost you a promotion
  6. Pursue your passion but don't go broke
  7. Raising kids? Then you want to raise them financially savvy as well as challenge them this summer.
  8. Starbucks is changing the future for its employees
  9. Negotiation 
  10. Mentoring..you need it
  11. Help others learn at meetings...or at least make them more productive
  12. Get over conflict
  13. Why woman won't negotiate job offers
  14. Defuse the passive aggressive
  15. Hooking up or marriage, which is the luxury?
  16. Can Google convince girls to code?
  17. Real time talent alignment
  18. Strategy: No longer a game of Chess
  19. The dirty 30, do you still live with mom?
  20. 3 Fears Good Delegators get over

Friday, June 13, 2014

Weekly Reading


I recently made a decision to switch my quest of one higher degree for another.  Now deciding to leave seminary in lieu of a MBA is in no way similar to my decision to switch my undergraduate degree from Business Administration to Philosophy/Theology.  Ironic, yes, but similar, no.  Switching my pursuit is leading me to attend a different school, which is half way across the county, I've had to complete different prerequisites, I'll be leaving my family for 6 months, and ultimately changing the destination of where I wanted... or thought I was going with my life.  Or at least that is the presumption.

When deciding to attend seminary, and throughout my tenure at Fuller, I have been bombarded with questions centering around "What do you want to do when you graduate?" or "What do you want to do with your degree?"  Don't get me wrong, destination and/or direction are imperative in life.  They give us purpose while shaping what we do.  They allow us to avoid temptation, or at least not be as vulnerable to derailment.  With that said, I continually take offense with people's questions.  Why do their questions bother me?  Because they start with the word "what."

Scot McKnight says it better than me when writing 10 reasons people should go to seminary.  It won't take long to realize his predominant and overriding theme central to all 10 reasons is enhancement.  The enhancement, culminates in the tenth reason of "who and not just what" you become.

I realized a couple month's ago why the "what" questions (what do you do, what do you want to become, etc) bother me.  I had fallen victim to letting the questions define me, and was subconsciously rebelling against the notion of what I was achieving or working towards as a definition for me.  The answer to the "what" question, was and is only part of the puzzle I want to allow others to use to define me.  For this reason, it is my position that the "what" questions are the wrong questions, especially in helping me determine where I am headed.

The "who," rather than the "what," is what is actually important to me.  What I am doing or have done is only part of who I am.  The who I am, and who I am becoming is what speaks to my deepest entity, my identity.

Therefore, my path from business to theology and back to business isn't as crazy as one might think.  I realized early in my studies the way I do one of these activities impacts the way I do the other.  Just like my identity, there are multiple forces at work.  They are working interconnectivly in helping me become who I want to become.

It's for this reason I view seminary as a success, and look forward to the challenges that await me. People struggle to understand this, and I am okay with that.  My destination has never changed.  Others, myself included, might have presumed or been confused with my exact destination, but I am finally beginning to articulate what it is, it has been about the development of me.

Another low reading week has led me to leave you with five articles on fathers that caught my attention.

  1. Where dads do "mom chores" daughters have un-stereotypical career hopes
  2. What can "Friday Night Lights" teach you about being a father?
  3. Why are Father's important? 25 Facts
  4. The rise of hands on fathers



Friday, June 6, 2014

Weekly Reading + Excuses

Past two weeks have slated me in golf tournaments on Friday.  Both good causes, last week to raise money for my alma mater and this week is for another good cause. All that to say I have struggled to find time to read articles let alone respond.  Therefore, here are a couple links which caught my eye.

  1. Religious devotees...not to their spouse
  2. Who has thrown out the worst first pitch?
  3. 3 Building blocks for effective persuasion
  4. Do you own a pet?  This is why I don't
  5. Two key traits needed from college graduates
  6. Bill Gates is funding a better condom
  7. Theology lesson for the week
  8. Hardest jobs to fill in 2014
  9. Do you fear conflict?
  10. Onboarding matters

Friday, May 23, 2014

Weekly Reading

When do you cut your ties and jump ship?  Is it a manager who pushes you over the edge?  Direction of the company?  Possibilities for advancement?  Apparently, Forbes believes the hiring and retaining employees is a monumental issue for business leaders in today's market.  Just look at the titles of articles they are pumping out: The Top 8 Reasons Your Best People Are About to Quit, What it Take to Retain Your Top Talent, 5 Ways to Attract and Keep Top Millennial Talent, How to Attract and Hire Incredible Talent, Five Red Flags that Tell You Don't Take This Job, How to Hire More Top Performers, and How Managers Keep Employees From Jumping Ship.  These are titles of articles from this week alone!  According to Forbes I am led to believe companies cannot retain their employees any better than atheists trying to retain their children.  

Has the market power of employment really shifted so much that employees actually have the power to reference check their future boss?  I believe so.*  The power is in the employees hand, and all they have to do is realize it.  Companies like Glassdoor make it easier for employee to realize which company they want to work for while also providing benefits they should come to expect as employees.  

The process of hiring and employee retention has really garnered my interest in the past couple months as I have been looking to hire, promote, and decide myself what I am doing with my career.  The studious readers of this blog will realize the asterisk (*) in my conclusions above.  I believe there are some conditions which do not fall into the norm of employee empowerment.  However, I am hedging my bet.  I don't believe I fall outside of the norm, and am willing to wager upon myself.  Today I officially sent an end date to the company I've worked at for the past 9 years.

I hope to continue to blog through my thought of what this looks like in the coming year... until then enjoy this weeks reading.

Friday, May 9, 2014

The Weekly Reading Is Still Digesting

Some times I lament my decision to go to a small private school and to get a liberal arts education, other times not so much (see picture). As it turns out it wasn't a mistake, just slightly misguided.  My paradigm has always been skewed due to my unclear goals.  This blog has been a way to process what I read/experience, an opportunity to share what's touched, as well as a time to reflect upon my life and goals.  This blog has not been a journal and it is not intended to be one, however, it has helped me begin to obtain a clearer picture of what I truly want.

I will preface the next couple sentences with a word of warning.  This has been a long, rough, emotional week where work and business decisions left me devastated, confused with my boss, helpless, and now disengaged.  I am glad its Friday, but the real work comes this weekend where I must decide between two MBA's.  One a bit more prestigious and a year out, and another starting this August.  As I prepare for this decision my life, my goals, all hinge upon what I really want.

Can I name it?  Will I have the courage to name it?  To name means to act, to act means to take the leap of faith.  Am I ready...?  After this week I am a bit more certain.

                                                  Articles To Mull Over

  1. You can be a tough leader and not a SOB!
  2. Hiring should be like the NFL draft
  3. Have you considered a student loan.......I am...
  4. Why the guy I tried to hire wasn't smart.  ESOP miracles
  5. Or was it because of my questions
  6. How much time do you waste?
  7. Are you happy at work?
  8. Last's weeks good news for my daughter needs to be followed up with article 1 and article 2
  9. It may suffer, but what if no one cares?
  10. What I wish I could communicate....trouble with theory

Friday, May 2, 2014

Weekly Reading Catch Up

Where have I been?  Well... let me start list with my best excuses.  Last week I was called in as a relief golfer to Spyglass.  I struggle passing on golf and find it near impossible to pass on a course like Spyglass.  Second, my nephew was born last night and I am a single parent.  Therefore, today's post is really just a couple articles I read, enjoyed, and caught my attention.

  1. Good news for my daughter
  2. How much is lunch with you worth? (Lunch with Tim Cook is worth)
  3. How much time do you waste in meetings?
  4. How to enhance your learning
  5. Fresh Eyes...but frustrated
  6. I wish hockey referees took this stance (why baseball umpires are better) #bitterfan
  7. What do the right wing fundamentalists say about this
  8. Evernote - 12 surprising uses + a bonus look
  9. Problems with icongraph maps
  10. Is this the future of TED?
  11. Need...More...Sleep
  12. Kentucky Derby Picks
In closing, I am bitter about the San Jose Sharks being on the wrong side of history, but I still love for the NHL playoffs.  As someone learning to play hockey the flex on this stick is amazing, and I wanted to share (Sorry Bruins fans 2OT Killer)

Friday, April 18, 2014

Weekly Reading...Ponderings

I have heard multiple people in "leadership" positions quote Gallup's statistic that 97% of people self identifying themselves as "above average" leaders.  This means 97% of people consider themselves leaders with a disproportionate 3% following them. Now I can experientially testify to the majority of the 97% of people polled as being either delusional or failing to comprehending what leadership is.  My inkling is to lean towards the latter. If this is true, then it leads me to ponder what the elusive word, "leadership" actually means.

A quick Google search resulted in a plethora of subjective definitions and thoughts on leadership.  The one consensus I found was leadership is considered a noun.  In my scouring of the web I came across a blog that put a nuance on the term, which shifted my initial inquiry. The blog articulated, "leadership is not about your position, title, personality, traits, skills or competencies.  Leadership is about being deeply connected to a purpose and vision you care about, and then working to make it happen."

My original hypothesis, supported by my very unscientific search tool, amalgamated with my experiences and opinions have led to conclude people define leadership in the ways this quote rejects.  People discuss leadership in terms of position, titles, personality, traits, skills or competencies.  However, these are ramifications, outcomes, and products of people's passions, purpose, and visions materializing.  It is only in the materialization of someone's passion, purpose, and vision where he or she can be placed atop of the corporate ladder and afforded the title, position, and compensation (not always monetary) which gains them the attributed and coveted title "leader."

This leads me back to the Gallup stat.  How can so many people misinterpret leadership, let alone label themselves as "above average."  Would I be to bold to suggest fear?  Fear is an antonym or something we don't readily associate with leadership.  Yet, if we make leadership about position, titles, personality, traits, skills, or competencies, then there is no risk, no passion, no purpose or vision required.  Fear does not enter into this equation.  However, leadership is not something to be acquired, passed down, handed to, or inherent.  Leadership is about compelling people to follow you.  It requires you to act.  To risk yourself.  To stand up and declare who you are, where you stand, and what you intend to do.  People want to follow people like this.  Consequently, choosing this path is scary.  The possibility of failure is around every corner.  I wonder if this isn't the reason why so many people define leadership in terms of position, titles, personality, traits, skills, and competencies?  It awards them the title without the work or risk of failure.  They can be measured and even exceed, but without passion, purpose, and vision accompanied with the gumption and fortitude to bring their beliefs into reality, then I don't think we can declare them leaders.

How do you define yourself?  Can you describe your passions, your purpose, and vision for your life?  Are you courageously walking towards your calling?  If you don't know, then you might be a victim of Gallup's poll.  I know for far too long I have...

The Week's Top Links That Caught My Eye
  1. Apparently your reputation is everything
  2. The truth about where our tax dollars are spent 
  3. Why people are drawn to simplicity over truth?
  4. Gender pay: lets map it out
  5. Body Language
  6. What does your sleeping position say about your relationship?
  7. The argument continues: What's more dangerous marijuana or alcohol?
  8. What would happen if more companies were like GE?
  9. 5 Ways to get anyone to do anything
  10. Always communicate the Why
  11. Good Friday Reflection
                                                              Welcome to San Jose

Friday, April 11, 2014

Weekly Pondering....or Reading

To laugh often and much; To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; To earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; To appreciate beauty, to find the best in others; To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.
--Ralph Waldo Emerson

It has been a long busy stressful week.  If you didn't catch the three adjectives ill just say "I am happy its Friday!"  As I was flipping through my blog reader of 517 unread articles I realized different titles were jumping out at me.  Titles ranging from yoga to competing for the most stressed out. I mean if you're going to let it happen, then why not lead the pack. 

While considering my inflexibility and the pain required to become flexible I came across Ralph's quote.  While reading it my last two interviews and their communicated understanding of success sprung into the forefront of my mind.

It's funny how different people define success.  Well, I guess it isn't funny how people define it, but how they don't define it.  Most people define success monetarily, just as my last two candidates did.  Consequently, upon me probing deeper in the interview into what that meant for them, such as to generate a particular dollar figure for the acquisition of their services, their answers were left wanting.   The vague general taxonomy of "financial success" wasn't really what either candidate wanted.  They wanted titles, power, prestige, and the opportunity for growth. I realized while they said one thing, they meant another.  None of the candidates could readily identify their deeper desires without speaking in terms of financial success.  Don't get me wrong, what they were desiring usually results in financial success, but it is a ramification to acquiring the first which leads to the latter.  This left me wondering, do they know what they really want? Do I?

 I was asked again this week, if I did.  One would think my strength of deliberation would eventually help me articulate an answer.  However, a strength taken too its extreme is a weakness or blind spot (I've heard successful people are able to identify and rectify) In ruminating upon my desires, and clicking through my blog reader trying to find a manageable amount articles for this blog, Dick Briggs quote assaulted me.

"The greatest gap in life is the one between knowing and doing"

More questions to percolate on... Is my inability to articulate what I want a subconscious blind spot protecting me from fear of failure?  Or is it fear of disrupting the status quo?  Before I did too deep into my subconscious, ill ask you.  Do you know what you want?  Are you striving for it?  How would others decipher your actions?  Or do you have a subconscious a blind spot?  However, you decide to answer, take comfort in Ralph recognizing there are multiple ways to reach success, and they might not be what we are trying to articulate.

What would a leader blog be without some articles...

Since I am hiring
Since we're reflecting today
Since it was a stressful week
Since I'm curious what drives you
Since the blog is for my leadership team

Leadership in Sports
Since Hockey playoffs start next week

Friday, April 4, 2014

Weekly Reading 5/4


Our biological clocks are ticking, or at least moving us in a certain direction.  I believe, whether consciously or unconsciously, I am always ruminating on this reality.  I remember reading an article citing facts about how it becomes harder to learn after the age of 25.  Upon reading the article, and being 25, I immediately begin applied for my masters of theology.  A year later I started.  I was determined to not become a statistic.  My decision was based upon my values with a tad bit of fear of who I'd become if I didn't.

Five years later I have begun to explore what it would look like to obtain my MBA.  While investigating my options my I ran across this article.  While I found the article very interesting I realized our society is always commenting on our age.  One moment we are too young to do something, the next we are getting too old.  No matter how old we are, someone (peers, family, society) is always trying to put limits on us.  I share this as I prepare to make more life altering decisions.  I don't want those decisions to be a reaction from my impatience or out of fear.  Consequently, making decisions based upon my identity and my desired telos is much more difficult.   I have learned the journey I desire is often in stark contrast to the opinions of the loud voices around me.  Having said that, if achieving goals were easy, we'd all be doing it.

Enjoy my collection of leadership readings this week.

  1. Own the crisis or it will own you
  2. Its not enough to manage, you must inspire 
  3. The head and heart of leaders...aim to hit both
  4. 4 lessons execs must learn
  5. Mindfulness for people who are too busy to meditate (Sounds oxymoronic)
  6. 4 Ways to get the real story...getting the truth
  7. Stop pushing development
  8. 7 things great employers do that others don't
In closing and on the lighter side....The birth of the lightsaber

Monday, March 31, 2014

World Vision & Weekly Reading

Depending on the circles you swim in, you either were bombarded with information regarding World Vision's historic decisions last week, or your didn't hear a peep.  To sum of the debacle, World Vision announced Monday it would hire members of the LGBT community.  World Vision went out of their way, as you will see from my selected quotes, to proclaim it was not under "pressure" or threat of a lawsuit, but rather sought to unify the divided church through their mission to serve the poorest of the poor in the name of Christ.  This announcement was followed by a reversal of the entire decision.  They cited their reversal for reasons suck as "longstanding conduct police" built upon the "Biblical covenant of marriage between a man and a woman" and their commitment to "traditional understanding of Biblical marriage.  They apologized for failing "to seek enough counsel" from their "Christian partners."  To summarize World Vision's week as a perplexing public relations nightmare would be an understatement.

I have a strong penchant for desiring to discuss the implicit and explicit theological implications of the indecision's decision.  However, my new found interest in leadership has me leaning another way.  As an outsider, with limited knowledge of what is required to lead a church or small business, and no experience running a non-for-profit, I can't help in asking who is leading World Vision?

I don't know if the experience of serving on a board of an international billion dollar organization removes the leadership so far from the leadership basics, but it would appear so.  What kind of board making a highly controversial decision would enter into that decision not knowing they would receive such significant push back?  What kind of board does not have an attack plan, or at least address the expected push back/concerns in their initial announcement?  What kind of board does not know how their conduct policies?  What kind of board does not see how their mission intersects with the culture and environment of the institution?  What kind of board does not know about long standing traditional institutional positions and what it might mean to upend those?  What kind of board announces a highly controversial decision by proclaiming the leadership team "was not unanimous?"  What kind of leadership team fails to seek counsel, run numbers, interview their Christian partners/giving units?  The list of "what were you thinking about" questions are never ending.

My hope is that you can read their initial decision and their reversal, and think about how your leadership team might have a proclivity to fall into some of the same failures.  Be wise and learn from others failures, so one day you won't be a case study yourself.

Weekly reading...

  1. The key to consistent victory, Loyalty
  2. Why you should stop brainstorming
  3. Sleep
  4. How do quiet leaders succeed? By earning respect
  5. What's your blindside?
  6. Leadership is lonely?
  7. 10 most common ways CEOs fail
  8. 4 difficult sentences for leaders
  9. Do you like the internet?  What if you lose it?
  10. Historic day? NCAA unions
In light of World Vision having a rough week, some times it isn't your day...

Friday, March 21, 2014

Weekly Reading 3/21

 Here is my weekly reading for my leadership team.


  1. The Cure for Busyness
  2. Why Companies Fail to Engage Today's Workforce, The Overwhelmed Employee (Ramifications stemming from the first article?)
  3. Why Leaders are Poor Communicators
  4. On Company Success Story: Who Needs a CEO Anyway?
  5. Create a Values Driven Organization (If you want to build a company like article #4)
  6. 10 Things only Lousy Managers Say (How many have you said?)
  7. Leaders, It Doesn't Matter What you Know if You Can't Communicate (Are you sensing a trend?)
  8. Help People Develop 
  9. What to get your new employees personal commitment....then take their on boarding personally
  10. Are Leaders Born or Made?  *Hint* You're asking the wrong question
  11. I always said Starbucks was one of the largest drug dealers....expanding the addiction market
As always, I ask my team to reflect upon these things while thinking, why is he sending these to me?

Monday, March 17, 2014

A Rough Friday

Friday was rough.  I was forced to play golf on a sunny mid 70 degree day at the historic Sequoyah Country Club in Oakland.  This "rough" day disallowed me from posting to the blog my weekly reading for me leadership team.  Hence forth I am posting it today.

Ill start the weekly reading with two quotes I heard again this last week, but are always good to reflect upon as leaders.

#1 “Effective leadership is not about making speeches or being liked; leadership is defined by results not attributes.” - Peter Drucker


#2 "Your systems are perfectly designed to get the behaviors/results that you're getting." - Andy Stanley






Tuesday, March 11, 2014

I've Been Busy...

I could come up with a number of excuses why I am not writing, but I won't bother.  My interests have changed and so now the nature of the blog will be altered.  I am currently working to lead a leadership team of a small business through some major changes.  I have begun compiling a weekly reading list and mandating my leaders to read and respond to me about one of the articles.

Please find my first couple weeks reading list.  I will be updating every Friday....if everything works out.

Hiring

Development
Helping the Passive Aggressive Executive